FRIENDS: A NOTE TO A FRIEND ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.(includes the new 'HANDS OF LOVE')

I wrote something some time back about friendships and relationships and I will include the URL here.

FRIENDSHIP: WHAT IT IS & WHAT IT ISN'T

I have also written several things recently which you may have read and saved.

I am hardly an expert on this sort of thing. Dear Abby I am not.  (thank GOD).

But I DO live and experience and observe like the late George Carlin and relate what I have learned in the hope someone else may benefit from it.

So here goes.
One thing I might posture to you. There is one thing I find sad to be sure. A relationship that fails because others interfered and it was too new to be strong enough to endure on its own.



WHY?

There are a lot of reasons why people try to get in the middle of relationships, PERIOD. Off-Line and On-Line. For some it is sport. For some it is greed. (For most of those, once they succeed in weaning your boyfriend away from you, they are done. Game over and they are on to the next one and for them that is ALL it is. A GAME.

Others are insecure, others are convinced (hard to believe, but) that THEY are TRULY BETTER for him than you.

(One side note. If they succeed, what does that say about your BF and/or the solidity of your relationship. Romances and romantic entanglements seem so fraught with peril, it's a wonder ANY survive. Bad enough normally, but when you have HELP undermining your affair, that can be deadly).

But here is  another point. A lot dudes will climb aboard the crash bang the affairs of others bandwagon ONline who NEVER would even think of it OFFline.

WHY? BECAUSE THEY ARE CONVINCED RELATIONSHIPS ONLINE, OF ANY KIND, ARE NOT REAL.

What?
Yep.

NOT FUCKING REAL, the chowderheads.
I've had people tell me that for several years and for a long time I could NOT believe they MEANT it. But, alas they did. So, if all of this online stuff is just some sort of virtual unreal GAME and everyone is 'in on it' and yeh, everyone does it and nobody is being real or serious or whatever then it stands to reason they will feel EVERYONE AND EVERY OTHER RELATIONSHIP is fair game.

I find that incredulous, but sad to say it is true. So when you have a relationship whether strictly online or you met online but then went offline or whatrever there are those who see this like the red flag to a BULL. BULL I say...and, what are you going to do? YELL AT THEM? BLOCK THEM? UNFRIEND THEM? Pfui. That is like peeing in the ocean and just KNOWING the water level rose.

OR a mouse going up an elephant's leg with rape on its mind. AIN'T HAPPENING, HONEY.

AND HOW DO THEY EXPLAIN THAT THE MAJORITY OF MARRIAGES NOW START ONLINE on sites like Match.com and many others. FLUKE? Idiots.

Course there is also the matter of JEALOUSY. They want what you want and can't seem to find  it (maybe cause they are bitches?) and so they try to go after someone else's. But again, this is NOT just ONline. It happens everywhere there are people. DO NOT think that just because you go off FB, that you are going to REMOVE YOURSELVES from the jealous or the greedy, or the woefully immature.

ONLY if you lock the two of you in a hermetically-sealed room for all eternity will that be possible AND THAT DOES HAVE IT'S DOWN SIDES, like food and oxygen and stuff.

I CANNOT tell you what to do and would never try. But since you cannot totally escape the Greedsters, maybe sticking in and working like HELL on your relationship? Cause if he and you are solid, NOBODY CAN...not easily anyway, drive you apart.

If you know he loves you and you love him, I SAY..>BRING IT ON.
Wait.

NO BULLDOZERS, MARY MARGARET.

THAT..

EEEEK

shit.

Ah well, I never did like that bozo that much anyway.

LOL.


                        'HANDS OF LOVE'

Take my hand and walk with me among the disbelievers, the unbelievers, the crude...and help me to show them a better way.  Nothing is better than the warmth of a hand on the one who makes you feel ALIVE.

Take my hand and walk with me through the garden, of sorrows and pain and grief...and help me to grow, and to know with you holding my hand and me, WE CAN get through anything.

Take my hand and walk with me through the joy and sunny days and ferris wheels and silly times, the comedy and the not so funny... so I can know just how wonderful you are and how LUCKY I AM, that YOU...ARE.

Take my hand and walk with me down that last and final journey, to the end where the sun turns grey and the mist cools the air, and then the blackness comes against the blinding whiteness of what is to come. Let me go unafraid as my fingers slowly and finally release yours and I am pulled beyond where you can go YET. I will wait for you honey, I promise, and my fingers and my heart will stay warm with the imagery and the touch and the gentle tenderness you gave me for so many years.

Release my hand and let me go, but only for a bit.

THE BEST IS YET TO BE.

Copyright 2014 by Dylan S Le Maire
DBE Publishing/Le Maire Enterprises
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